This year I’ve been focusing on two themes: self-awareness and self-reflection.
These topics are so important, I’m dedicating some of my monthly newsletters of the year to them alone.
My subscribers are getting one email a month with resources that can help them become more self-aware and reflective in a positive way.
I genuinely believe becoming more self-aware and increasing your ability to reflect on the things you do and feel, can exponentially improve your life in a short amount of time.
In 2019, when I felt the most miserable I’ve ever felt, I realized I rarely noticed why I was doing the things I was doing. I couldn’t even describe how I was feeling.
If you asked me “why do you do that for a living?”, “where do you see yourself next year?”, or any other question of a similar fashion, my mind would simply go blank.
I had no goals, no direction, no purpose.
Of course, I felt lost, unmotivated, and kind of desperate.
Sounds like you? You’re not alone.
Thanks to books I read and things I learned about life, I realized I didn’t have goals because I didn’t know what I wanted and because I didn’t understand why I needed to have goals in life.
Little by little, I started to realize the reason I felt so unmotivated and lost was exactly that: I didn’t know who I was. I didn’t know what I wanted.
Being clear of what you want, who you are, and why you do what you do is a crucial stepping stone to a life you enjoy.
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5 quick questions to ask yourself when you feel lost in life
1. What am I doing to change the things I don’t like?
Sometimes I complain because my neck hurts or because my hair’s a mess, and then I realize I haven’t done anything lately to relieve my neck pain or take care of my hair.
And just like it works for small things like those, it works for bigger, more crucial things; these are merely illustrative examples.
Back when I didn’t like my job, I once wondered: What am I doing to get new clients that send me exciting projects?
It changed me. I realized I wasn’t doing anything exceptional to land better projects.
What are you doing to get out of your rut? What are you doing to get unstuck? Is it working?
If not, why not?
When you feel lost in life, you need to look inside and ask yourself: If I don’t like [person/job/home/whatever], what am I doing to change/accept/leave that situation?
2. What am I scared of?
Maybe you feel lost, and know why, but for some reason, you can’t get yourself to do the things you know you have to do.
You say you lack “motivation” or “inspiration.”
In reality, when you feel lost in life, what you need is clarity.
One of the things you want to be the clearest about is your fears.
In most cases, inaction stems from fear.
It might be fear of:
- not being good enough
- what people may say/think
Go deep and be honest, as I always tell my readers.
Identify what’s stopping you from taking action. No fear is “dumb.”
More posts you’ll love:
- 10 Smart Things To Do With Your Life When You Hate It
- 9 Reasons Why We Feel Lost In Life (And What To Do About It)
3. What’s my primary motive to do the things I do?
Another angle to look at this is wondering why you do the things you do.
Is it to seek validation? Respect? Joy?
Are you doing the same thing you’ve been doing for years out of habit?
4. Am I taking care of myself?
Taking care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally should be one of your top priorities.
Some people love to make excuses as to why they feel down:
“It’s a physical imbalance” or “I’m just wired this way.”
That’s true for several people, but not for everybody.
Maybe you’re not taking enough care of yourself.
Failing to take care of your body can have terrible consequences on your mental health.
If you feel lost or unmotivated, ask yourself:
- taking care of my body?
- Getting enough sleep?
- Eating high-quality food that gives my body all the nutrients it needs?
- Moving my body?
Also, pay attention to how you take care of your appearance.
Take care of your hair, skin, and nails.
Pick out outfits that fit you and make you feel fantastic.
However, your external self is just one part of the equation.
Just like you have to watch the foods you eat, you have to watch what kind of energy you surround yourself with.
Taking care of your headspace is as important as taking care of your body.
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Ask yourself: Am I
- taking care of my mind and soul?
- Hanging out with people that bring out the best in me?
- Keeping my space uncluttered, organized, and clean?
- Keeping in touch with friends and family?
- Letting myself fall into comparison traps?
- Spending too much time on social media?
- Learning interesting, useful things?
5. What triggered this feeling?
When did it all begin?
Trace your feelings back to where they started.
Try to find the source of your discomfort.
More posts you’ll love:
- 12 Signs You Don’t Know Yourself (And What To Do About It)
- 15 Journaling Prompts To Discover Your Dreams
Lack of honesty and clarity in life can have terrible consequences.
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Many people live on auto-pilot without stopping to think about what they’re doing, and they end up being miserable for decades.
I’m so confident these questions (if you really think about your answers and honestly reflect on them) can change your life, I’ll offer you a deal:
Reflect on these questions, and if doing so doesn’t work, send me an email. I want to help you.