To understand yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.
Understanding yourself is the first step you need to take if you want a fulfilling life.
When you understand yourself, it’s possible for you to pinpoint what you’re feeling and why, what you want to do with your life, who you want to surround yourself with, which experiences you want on your bucket list.
As obvious as that may sound I didn’t know it back then when I used to feel lost in life. I kept looking for answers in the outside instead of devoting time to self-reflection; I was looking at what other “successful” people in my field were doing and trying to replicate their moves instead of exploring what I actually wanted to do.
I learned the lesson the hard way because it took me years to really understand what was happening inside of me.
In this post, I want to share with you more than 20 vital questions you should ask yourself to connect with your feelings, understand yourself and paint a more or less complete picture of who you are today.
I say “more or less complete” because you’re not static.
You’re constantly changing and improving because every:
- Conversation you have,
- Movie you see,
- Song you hear,
- Or thought you think has the ability to change who you are.
There’s always more to learn about yourself.
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24+ Questions That Help You Understand Yourself Better
- List the top things you think about the most. How do those thoughts make you feel? Out of those thoughts, which are really worth thinking about?
- Which memory, person, or feeling do you need to let go of? Why do you think you haven’t let it go yet? Why would it be beneficial to get over it?
- List the top activities you do the most. How do those activities make you feel? Out of those things, which are really worth your time?
- Have you taken actions lately to change, improve or leave situations (or people, habits, etc) that add little to no value to your life? Do you have a plan to do so? If not, why not?
- What have you been postponing lately? Why are you avoiding it?
- When you meet someone, what makes you instantly like/dislike them? What do you think is the reason behind that?
- If you keep doing what you’re doing now, where will you be in one year? How does that thought make you feel?
- What’s the thing you crave the most? How do you think that thing is going to make your life better?
- What are you willing to sacrifice in order to get what you want in life? Is it worth it?
- What’s preventing you from taking action? To help you see what’s holding you back, use the following prompt:
- I’d love to [blank] but I haven’t because [blank].
- Can you spot lame excuses in that statement? Or do you have legitimate reasons not to take action? How can you work around them?
- What makes you feel discouraged?
- How do you feel about your most important relationships? What can you do to improve or keep nurturing those relationships?
- If your relationships with others improve, would you feel more at peace with yourself?
- What’s something you think you’d never do? Why?
- In your opinion, what does it mean to live a “meaningful” life?
- Which are your top 3 values in life? Check out a helpful list of personal values here.
- When was the last time you took a risk? Was it worth it?
- If you could go back in time, what would you change? How would that affect you today?
- Don’t think that if you fix a past mistake, everything would be all rainbows and butterflies today. Think also about how not learning that lesson could affect your life and mindset today.
- Think about past failures? How did you react? What did you tell yourself? What does that say abou you?
- How do you measure success? What does success mean to you?
- Which piece of advice would you give your younger self? Where does that advice come from?
- From 1-10, how self-confident are you? If it’s low, do you think your self confidence is holding you back?
- There’s always room for improvement in every area of life. Which actions can you take to improve yours?
- After answering all these questions, how would you describe yourself?
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“Sometimes people think they know you. They know a few facts about you, and they piece you together in a way that makes sense to them. And if you don’t know yourself very well, you might even believe that they are right. But the truth is, that isn’t you. That isn’t you at all.” ~Leila Sales