If you feel lost or stuck in life, it might be because you’ve been making choices to please others or to follow society’s norms instead of looking for ways to tap into your potential and become your most epic self; maybe you lack self-love.
But that’s okay!
We’ve all been there because no matter if we’re conscious of it or not, we, as humans, generally try to fit in so others like us more.
In this post, I want to explore the idea of self-love a little bit, tell you why it might be exactly what you need if you feel lost, and share with you self-love journaling prompts to guide you through your journey.
Let’s start with the basics.
What Self-love Really Means
Loving yourself doesn’t mean being entitled, feeling superior, or being better than everybody else.
It’s not about being rude to others because you think you’re above them. It’s not having a huge ego or being a narcissist.
According to Andrea Brandt: “Self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Self-love means not settling for less than you deserve.“
Self-love means knowing who you are and loving yourself anyway because love is unconditional.
It’s about being honest with yourself and giving yourself your own pep talks, and being good to yourself at the same time.
When you love yourself, you know that even though you make mistakes because you’re only human, that doesn’t mean you can’t try new things every once in a while.
17 Self-love Journaling Prompts to Boost Your Confidence
1. What does self-love mean to me?
And does that definition speak to you?
To improve your levels of self-love, you first need to be confident in what self-love really means.
Explore the definition of self-love and give examples of how that would translate to your daily life.
2. What things make you feel bad, but you find yourself doing them anyway?
And why do you keep doing them?
3. Something I don’t like about myself is ___, but I love myself anyway.
Fill in the blank with as many things as you want.
Self-love isn’t about loving the “perfect,” idealized version of you. It’s about loving yourself today and always, no matter if you don´t:
- make as much progress as you’d like
- react to things as you’d want
- look the way you’d like.
Learn to love yourself each and every day, no matter what.
4. Am I on a life path I chose for myself?
Or are you doing what you do for a living just to please and/or impress others?
5. When was the last time I spoke my truth and said what I really meant?
When you’re more worried about pleasing others than about being true to yourself, you’ll tend to bottle up your feelings instead of standing your ground.
So, when was the last time you stood up for yourself? When was the last time you didn’t and felt awful about it?
What happened? Why did you choose to stay silent?
Is it because of fear of judgment? Or because you feared the person would stop loving you and caring for you?
6. Am I giving my body what it needs to be healthy and strong?
And if not, why not?
Your body is your temple; it’s where you live. Literally.
And you only have one body for the rest of your life. Are you taking care of it? What does that mean to you?
7. Write yourself a compliment
Compliment your looks, your personality, your humor, your accomplishments, your values, whatever you want.
Giving yourself compliments frequently will help you feel empowered and focus on the things you love the most about yourself.
8. Have I forgiven myself for all my past mistakes?
What can you learn from those mistakes?
Understanding you can only learn from the past and not change it can help you let things go.
9. I forgive myself for ___, and I’m ready to let it go.
Are you still giving yourself a hard time for a mistake you made?
If you do, then take some time to journal about what happened and understand why you acted the way you did.
10. Are my relationships healthy?
Do you know how to set boundaries?
If you can’t set healthy boundaries, what are you afraid of?
11. What can I do today to protect myself, my energy, and my time?
You matter. And so does your time and your energy.
What can you do today to protect yourself from distractions and focus on what really matters to you?
12. What’s my biggest dream?
Take time to explore your dreams because giving yourself permission to dream is part of loving and believing in yourself.
13. Think about someone who loves you unconditionally
And try to describe yourself from that person’s perspective.
What would they say? How have you made a positive difference in their lives?
14. I’m ready to stop ___ to make others like me and start doing things just because they’re good for me.
What things are you doing to please others that are blocking you from doing what YOU want to do?
15. What would your younger self be proud of you for today?
No matter how stuck you may feel today, I’m sure there are things you’ve done that your younger self would be proud of you for.
16. What’s something I wish someone would say to me?
Tell yourself everything you’d want someone else to tell you:
- I love you
- I’m proud of you
- You matter
- You’re doing the best you can
17. 5 things I can do to show myself more love
Once you’ve gone through the rest of the prompts and learned more about self-love means, what are five things you could do today to give yourself love?
The Bottom Line
Using self-love journaling prompts in your journaling practice is a powerful tool to cultivate a more positive relationship with yourself.
Take the time to reflect on your thoughts, feelings, and experiences so you can understand yourself and your needs better.
The prompts I listed here can help you explore your values, challenge your negative self-talk, and set intentions for a more fulfilling life.
So, pick up your pen and journal, and start exploring the magic of self-love journaling.